Disobedience got them mopping up the entry way.
Unfortunately, it didn't take the first time... so we moved on the the bathroom.
Sadly, they still didn't understand what the rules were (even though they've been the same for 3 years), and we had to move on to the dinning room floor.
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I have no ideas. And this will not make you feel any bettr, but I am so relieved to see that another family that usually has minor/minimal behavior issues is facing some challenges right now too. Our issues with IndieGirl go on right now. Her newest consequence (for repeated lying/sneaking) is to attend dance tomorrow, but only watch, not participate. She has to tell her teacher she is sorry she can't dance too. I'm hoping this will be serious enough to at least make her think twice about things.
Are y'all going to see Dr. Guarendi in October?
Yes. Tell all your friends at your parish, ticket sales have been a little slower than hoped for at this point. (shameless plug)
I like your idea about dance class, we've had variations on that theme, getting left out of activities. That's one of the "Love and Logic" recommended techniques.
It's just so bizarre, really. It's been almost every day for the better part of a month now, one or two of them have been in trouble for horsing around after bed time or fussing in church or... something. We've been trying to get more creative with punishments, something that might make a bigger impression than time out or even spankings. And honestly I'm afraid to spank them or even be in the room with them at times, because I'm seeing red.
Just as important as nurturing bonding, is fearing that misbehavior will bring a consequence that they won't want!
One that worked with my very active oldest son was exercises. It seemed he misbehaved when he wasn't getting all of his energy out or when he was getting sick. And if it was the case of him getting sick in the next day or so; then I was left with the guilt of punishing him when he hadn't felt good!
perhaps your rules are too tough? they are just little boys...i spent most of my childhood playing in my room with my sister before going to bed and those are some of my fondest memories of growing up. perhaps it wouldn't hurt to let them be a little more childlike and enjoy playing rough and loudly with their brothers... just a thought..
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Don't let the cute faces fool you. And don't think all we do is yell and scream around here. They need sleep. Heck, WE need sleep. There's a little bit of quiet talking/bonding with brothers in bed, and then there's destructive behavior and outright disobedience. Try teaching them the next day when they're going on 4 hours of sleep.
daddio,
You are finding out that genes are far more important than anyone ever has acknowledged. We are convinced that there are genes for sociopathy. You must stay firm in what you will and will not tolerate. If the only reason they comply is fear of consequences, then so be it.
I also think Cynthia's points are good, but she is talking about children who have her genes.
We are absolutely astonished at the sociopathic schemes our adopted three-year-old daughter comes up with. Her mother was a full blown sociopath.
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