Saturday, July 8, 2006

Wedding season...

It's that time again... Wedding Season, your social calendar fills with all those ready to take the plunge.

We actually attended our first of this years festivities last night. A high school friend of ours, and it dawned on me how different it must be for them compared to when we got married back when we were 21 (we are all now 27). Things like, we were just starting out in our new adult jobs while they have been living a long distance relationship for quite sometime and have had their jobs and routines for many years. We went directly from college to being married and started off from scratching with building our lives together. Now they will be trying to merge those two lives into a combined union, one having to start over in the job market and new city. They are moving into their first apartment together, while we have owned a home for several years now. Much like us (when we first got married) they want to have a few years of marriage before they bring kids into the mix... which puts them in their 30's, where as we had our fun but our kids came into our marriage when we were 25 (with plenty of time to have more). Not that it is a bad thing to have kids in your thirties... just if that's when you plan on starting, then you are considerably older when they finally leave (not to mention the mounting difficulties to conceive as you age).

Next week in contrast we are attending a wedding where the bride and groom are 21, new jobs, and just bought their first home! Totally ahead of the game with the world at the feet. I guess I am more partial to how we did it... because it worked so well for us... but neither way is right or wrong. They both have their advantages and disadvantages, I suppose. It is just interesting to see how things fall into place.

Just the musings of someone who has been happily married for 5 1/2 years, and wouldn't change anything about it!

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